The secret diary of a single parent bloke
Once again my life has been drastically changed, this time the huge step is going from redundancy to starting up my own business, and it’s made me re-evaluate many things about myself.
I’ve put so much effort into making day-to-day life stable for me and my children that I’ve become risk-averse. I fully understand how it happened: I was doing so much, on such a tight schedule every day, that unless everything could be scheduled and planned to the nth degree, I would not have been able to cope. So unless I’m 100% sure that everything’s been planned out and guaranteed to work, I’ve avoided doing it.
Of course, setting up your own business brings absolutely no guarantees and I’ve begun thinking about everything else that I do. And it’s lead me to realise that my failure in dating (or even getting dates) is down to two things: lack of confidence and lack of willingness to take a chance.
There is someone who I like, and I know she likes me, but I’ve always backed off because I doubted it could work. She’s something of a socialite- out every night and unencumbered with kids, whereas I’m the opposite. And yet we get on so well together. So why shouldn’t I take a chance?
So I have.
We were both at a party last night and, armed with plenty of dutch courage, I asked her out. And now I have a girlfriend.