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Isolated holiday

Uploaded: Tuesday, April 24th, 2012

Friday, September 14th, 2007.

Several months ago, I booked a holiday for the three of us. I managed to get a really good deal on an all-inclusive holiday in Turkey at one of those holiday-fortress type places that I swore I’d never go to. I looked upon it as a holiday for Natalia and Jack, after all, a holiday can be hard work for a single parent.

It was also the first time I’d taken them on a holiday just on my own- previous holidays had always been part of a group, or with family. I wasn’t nervous though, I was really looking forward to it! Since being made redundant, I’d been able to spend much more time with them, and felt that the three of us were closer than ever.

Jack did his usual “demand to sit by the window on the plane then instantly fall asleep” trick, much to Natalia’s annoyance, and off we jetted. Part of the bargain price was a night flight, so when we arrived at the hotel at 7am, we went straight to bed! But it wasn’t long before we were out exploring the fabulous facilities.

All-inclusive proved to be a good choice- I was glad of not having to spend lots of extra money, and the kids loved the freedom of going and getting their own food and drinks. But for me, there was something missing- adult company.

I’m quite a sociable person and will try and strike up a conversation with anybody, but I don’t think I had a proper chat with anybody. Kids make friends easily, but I’ve noticed that adults only admit other adults in similar situations to their circle: a family will mingle with another family; a couple will mingle with other couples; and lone people mingle with other lone people. Unfortunately, it seemed that I was the only lone adult there. Even the staff wouldn’t (or couldn’t) chat- I’ve been to Turkey lots of times, and always found the Turkish people to be lovely, warm and friendly, but they just seemed oppressed and grumpy here.

Jack and Natalia are growing up fast, and they’re already good company, but no substitute for an adult to talk with. Despite the isolation, we had a brilliant time and even now (as I type this in 2012), they still talk about the camel ride, when I pushed Natalia into the pool at midnight, and the free Fanta. I just feel sorry for the people who received my verbal diarrhea upon my return!


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4 Responses to “ Isolated holiday ”

    Shane commented at 9:56 pm on May 10th, 2012

    Thank you for sharing your life. I’m in an unhappy marriage, love my wife and daughter, but hate the fights we are always getting in to. I sometimes just wish I could walk away, but don’t want to lose my daughter.

    I was very sad to reach the end of your diary, it felt good to read it all, once again thank you for sharing your life.


    Jamar Cobb-Dennard commented at 6:00 pm on August 11th, 2012

    Adults only admit adults in similar situations is totally True. I’ve sometimes felt ostracized as a single parent amongst other families. How did you handle that as a father?


    Michael commented at 6:01 am on March 25th, 2014

    I think it’s great that you went away with your kids. I can hear that it was a different holiday for you but you probably got more out of it than you immediately realised.
    I’ve been told that if you look for the good or the learning experience in all situations you’ll find it. Maybe you already have.


    Tom commented at 10:03 pm on October 25th, 2014

    Great to read your diary, I have 2 boys aged 3 and 4. I have recently split from their mum. Her choice not mine although I’m glad she did it now.

    Can’t wait to take them on all manner of adventures that their mum would have frowned upon. Camping, fishing, Disney world etc.

    Just wish I had some more company to occupy the week nights when I can’t see my boys. Still you bring hope.




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