The secret diary of a single parent bloke
I’ve been pretty fed up lately- nothing seems to be going right for me and for some reason the thought of being alone on another Saturday night, whilst my kids are with their mom, has filled me with dread. At the start of the week I see it staring back at me from the distance, like a big black hole sucking the week away and getting bigger as the weekend approaches.
About a year ago I joined an activity group, hoping to make friends and fill the empty weekends. It’s fair to say that it hasn’t worked- and that’s down to my lack of time, not the group. There’s a weekend away that they do every March, and I’d love to go, and then after that I’ll probably quit and save my money.
Last night, I posted a message on the group’s website forum. It simply said “I can’t face another night of watching TV on my own this weekend”.
Within an hour, I’d had two emails inviting me out: one to go to a club in the city and the other to go ten pin bowling. Both invites were from people who I’d never met. I was a bit apprehensive about them, after all we’ve all heard the dangers of meeting people on forums, but it was a private forum for group members only, and I figured that I had very little to lose. I accepted the invitation to the club to see a band.
There were about a dozen people going, and they arranged for the taxi to pick me up and drop me back home as part of their route. Three taxis pulled up, two were empty but there was one lady the other one, I got in and we introduced ourselves. Over the 15 mile journey into the city, the taxis filled up and I desperately tried to remember everyone’s name. They were all very friendly and welcoming. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I’d felt so welcome in a group! Nobody knew me, I didn’t know them, and yet they treated me as an old friend.
The club was fantastic- live music from some great groups, but not as fantastic as this group of people. I had a wonderful night dancing and had loads of fun ’til bedtime at 4am. And I’ve been invited out with them next month too. I hope that this is the beginning of new friendships.