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Uploaded: Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

Monday, October 16th, 2006.

I’m getting increasingly annoyed with Katrina’s attitude towards Natalia and Jack. She’s constantly promising to take them to places during her time with them. Fun things, like days out. She gets them all excited throughout the week, then at the last minute they have to spend the Saturday in the shopping centre doing urgent clothes shopping (for her and Dave, not the kids). Then they usually have to go to a different mall on Sunday because they’ve forgotten something on the Saturday.

And this happens every weekend. In fact, their promised trip to Cadbury World has passed into myth- she’s been promising them there nearly every weekend for over a year and a half, and it still hasn’t happened (and as I type this up in 2011, it still hasn’t happened).

Broken promises and boring weekends are one thing, but the lack of general care is another. Despite the fact that Natalia and Jack have been staying with Katrina and Dave every other weekend for nearly 18 months, they’re still sharing the same single bed. And just to make matters worse, Jack’s bedwetting has restarted!

Today, the kids walked in, and they reeked. Actually, they usually stink when they come back, but today was worse. They told me about their usual weekend trudging around the mall whilst I shepherded them into the bath. While they were in there, I opened their clothes bag to sort out their washing. The acrid stench of urine hit me. Jack’s sodden pyjamas has been just thrown into the bag. As usual, most of the clothes I’d packed remained unworn, but now everything was wet. Poor kids.

I waited until they’d gone to bed, and I phoned Katrina. She didn’t have an answer about why she’d dumped Jack’s wet PJs into the bag, but I told her that it was never to happen again or I’d stop sending them with a weekend bag. I also said that she’d got a month to sort out the sleeping arrangements or I’d stop her seeing them. She tried to argue that it was a small house and there wasn’t room for a second bed, I said that where there’s room for a single, there’s room for a bunk. She then tried to argue that it wasn’t her house. I said “tough”.

Update: After their next weekend there, the clothes came back neatly laundered. It took her another two months to buy an inflatable bed (and lots of broken promises and a further ultimatum from me).


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    farmerdadof2 commented at 1:35 pm on March 23rd, 2011

    Urgh, my boys mother sounds exactly the same in that respect..
    After 2 years I still have to supply bedding as well 3 or 4 changes of clothes, simply for an overnight visit.
    Just the other week I reminded her (again) that as well as nappies for overnight (to make it easier for her, as she has a baby now) that there were undies in the bag and for her make sure to put them on the boys during the day- as apart from the occasional accident they are toilet trained.
    Before I even had them home we had a huge argument, with her blaming me because they messed themselves constantly.
    Apparently she just couldn’t be bothered dealing with them, all it takes is to remind them that they should go to the toilet if they haven’t already gone, but that’s TOO difficult.


    GeographerEilidh commented at 6:31 pm on May 2nd, 2011

    I’ve been following your posts for months now – as the grown-up daughter of a single dad, it’s so refreshing to read from your perspective! Even now, people are amazed that my dad ended up looking after me, my sister and younger brother when my mother walked out 7 years ago. This is bringing back so many memories of staying at my mother’s house after the split and her rubbish promises. Glad to hear you stood firm… your kids will always love you for it :)


    Bloke commented at 11:47 am on May 3rd, 2011

    Thanks for reading, and for your comment. The most common thing that my readers say to me is “that happened to me too”. We’re not alone!


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