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The secrets behind the radiator

Uploaded: Tuesday, April 20th, 2010

Monday, April 11th, 2005.

I was in the kitchen, just finishing the washing up, and went to put the tea towel over the radiator, and accidentally knocked the calendar (hanging above it) down the back. I expected it to slide out from underneath the radiator, but it didn’t. I peered behind it- there was something down there.

The next half an hour was like some sort of manual dexterity test- using a combination of sticks, long knives, Blu Tac and many other long thin implements, I managed to prise out dozens of letters that had been wedged there. They were bills. All of them. Dozens!

I had a bit of a panic- I knew nothing about any of them. Many were final demands, but most were all for relatively small amounts, ranging from about £10 upwards. There were final demands, debt collection agency letters, threats of CCJs and repossession threats. Some were from mail-order catalogues, the rest (from agencies) were unspecified. The dates on them ranged from the very recent to about a year old. Why hadn’t she paid them? A few quid here and there- I know she could have afforded it, she was earning a wage and kept the Child Benefit and working tax credits. She’d always been bad with money, but even in the past when she’d needed money I’d always helped out, and god know’s how many times I’d bailed out the joint account.

What was I going to do? I just stood there looking at them.

I phoned my Mom, and then my Dad, and they both calmed me down. All of the bills were in Kat’s name, not mine, and they all seemed to be unsecured against the house. Once I’d calmed down enough, I wrote to every creditor and explained that Kat didn’t live here any more, and gave them a forwarding address.

I hope that will be enough.


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8 Responses to “ The secrets behind the radiator ”

    The Moiderer commented at 7:47 am on April 15th, 2010

    My hubby’s ex used to have the same problem. She was a nightmare with money and regularly spent them into debt. When they divorced it all happened amicably and she had to sort her own problems out. But it left the hubby as hyper sensitive about money. We don’t have a join account for that reason. Some people just don’t seem to “get” money


    Lisa commented at 2:03 pm on April 15th, 2010

    Damn you are lucky they were all in her name! That was a close call x


    Chic Mama commented at 5:20 pm on April 15th, 2010

    My ex-husband’s unsecured debts could well mean we lose half the equity in our house.I’m still to find out. :0(


    Dr. Leah @Singlemommyhood commented at 6:38 pm on April 15th, 2010

    Just dropping by to say hello.

    We’ve heard tales of similar shenanigans…Oh! That panicky feeling! Sounds like you handled things just right!


    Lorna Byrne commented at 9:45 am on April 17th, 2010

    This reminds me of my hubby’s uncle. Not only did she commit adultery, but she had racked up all sorts of debts which he didn’t know about, and he’s only just finished paying them off :(


    Single Dad's Diary commented at 12:30 pm on April 20th, 2010

    Where there are relationship problems, it seems that money problems are never far away.


    Becky commented at 8:29 pm on April 21st, 2010

    letters keep arriving at my house for my husband demanding money for unpaid debts. all I can do is tell them he isn’t here any more. the ones chasing an outstanding parking fine want to send someone round to prove he isn’t here…


    Luschka commented at 7:31 pm on April 22nd, 2010

    Too true about money vs relationship problems! That’s true even in the happiest of marriages, I think. Good thing they’re all in her name. I must say – great as DH is at being the provider for us, he is TERRIBLE at maintaining accounts, so I do all of that, otherwise he just ‘forgets’ to pay things and runs us in to the ground!


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