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She’s not happy

Uploaded: Wednesday, April 14th, 2010

Saturday, April 9th, 2005.

I’ve just had a furious phone call from Kat- she’s received a letter from my solicitor. “I thought we’d agreed to get a quick divorce off the internet?” Well, I’ve decided against it. “They also want me to admit to adultery!”

She seems to think that if she admits adultery, then someone will point their finger at her, chanting “it’s all your fault!” At this point, I really don’t see what the problem is, but she’s still refusing to admit what has been obvious for so long. She seems to think that she’ll somehow be labelled if she admits it.

I point out to her that buying her out of the house is linked to the divorce, and if I have to prove adultery, it could take years during which time she would be responsible for half of all of the mortgage payments etc, and now that the solicitor was involved, I’d make sure that she paid her share- for once!

It seems as though the threat of making her actually pay towards the bills has worked, and she agreed to sign the form and admit to adultery. Funny how the threat of actually making her contribute has changed her mind!

She finishes by saying that she has never cheated on me, and only signed the form to speed up the divorce. “Now that I’ve signed it, when will the divorce come through?” she asks. She seems to be in a hurry.

I’ve always wondered at what point a divorce gets nasty, I suspect that I may have just found out.


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5 Responses to “ She’s not happy ”

    Henrietta Pretty commented at 11:48 am on April 14th, 2010

    i can’t imagine any divorce is “amicable” despite what they say. i would have thught “amicable” is a slightly less horrendous version than “nasty”. Best wishes to u during it all.


    Chic Mama commented at 5:18 pm on April 15th, 2010

    I never ever imagined that my ex husband could behave the way he behaves towards me, it seems the guilty party always get nasty and defensive. :0(


    Supersinglemum commented at 10:02 pm on April 16th, 2010

    Oh too true Chic Mama, my ex was at fault, wanted to wait 3 years so the divorce would be quick and cheap (still dont know where he got that from) but I went ahead and filled for divorce. That was 18 months ago and we are still not divorced yet all we had to sort out was debts that he had run up. I won, he is paying them so am happy, but I still dont have that piece of paper!


    Luschka commented at 7:22 pm on April 22nd, 2010

    The only way to have a peaceful divorce is to walk out with nothing, go to court on your own, and walk away. Probably harder when you have kids, but what I did at 20 and it was the only painless way to do it!


    Noodle commented at 10:36 am on May 12th, 2010

    I feel for you here – my ex was having the world’s most badly hidden affair, but refuses to admit to adultery for the divorce. Why? I have no idea whatsoever. Instead, I’m having to submit five counts of unreasonable behaviour (easy enough to do), but he’s still not happy because it’ll “make him look bad”. I hope this all goes through relatively easily for you and can just become an unpleasant memory.


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