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What a way to spend your 30th birthday!

Uploaded: Thursday, April 1st, 2010

Monday, March 21st, 2005.

I’m 30 today and I don’t feel any different (not that I expected to). I’m taking Natalia and Jack to the pub for lunch, and meeting my grandparents there, then afterwards I’ve made an appointment to see a solicitor about getting a divorce.

Although we’d both agreed to get a quick divorce (and it would seem that there are plenty of places on the internet that you can get them from), I’d rather get it done properly. There’s too much at stake (the kids and the house).

On the way to the pub, I drive past the school. It’s open! I thought it was half term! Oops. That’ll teach me not to get my information from Kat! It’s too late to take them now, they may as well have a day off and celebrate my birthday with me. I’ll smooth things over with the school tomorrow.

The solicitor has given me plenty of advice, and confirmed what I already knew: she should be paying me maintenance, not the other way around. During my recent meeting with Kat, she did say that she’d contribute towards the children, but I’ll believe that when I see it. I suspect that I’ll have to get the Child Support Agency involved, but for the time being, I’ll concentrate on the other issues.

I was also advised that the quickest way to get the divorce is if Kat admits to the adultery. Given that she’s admitted nothing so far, I’m not sure that she’ll admit anything now. The solicitor’s suggested using the house as leverage- linking the buying her out of the house to the divorce settlement. I don’t even know if I can afford to buy her out of the mortgage! If she still won’t admit adultery, I’ll need to prove it- maybe the emails can help.

During the evening, I got into Katrina’s email account again. Now that she’s not living here, she’s no longer deleting her emails. There are lots between her, “James” and “Joe”. Who the hell is “Joe”? What happened to “Ben”? Some of the emails are quite explicit, telling “James” and “Ben” about what she’s been up to with “Dave”? Just what the hell is going on here? I don’t know who “Dave” is, but I do know that he has trouble getting an erection, and doesn’t last very long. It’s a good job that I don’t give a shit any more- this sort of stuff could send a guy over the edge!

What a way to spend your 30th birthday!


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4 Responses to “ What a way to spend your 30th birthday! ”

    Supersinglemum commented at 10:04 pm on April 1st, 2010

    Happy 30 something for a few weeks ago!!!
    I’m looking forward to seeing how things pan out with all this – as it’s a while ago now it’s such a different angle from other blogs I read! Can’t wait for more!!


    Luschka commented at 4:42 pm on April 9th, 2010

    Pretty awful way to spend your 30th. But who am I to point fingers? I went in to labour and cancelled my plans. I think it’s pretty awful that you went through that. I’ve been through elements of it and seen it happen close to me and it sucks.


    Dancing Divorcee commented at 10:43 pm on July 9th, 2011

    With 2 sick kids to look after on my own, I should have gone to bed ages ago but this is such compulsive reading! Well done for making the break and reclaiming your life!


    Bloke commented at 8:39 am on July 10th, 2011

    Thanks for reading & commenting. Go to bed! You’ll thank me in the morning :)


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