The secret diary of a single parent bloke
I met up with Katrina this afternoon, there were lots of practicalities to discuss. I’d arranged a babysitter for Natalia and Jack, and we met at a neutral place- a pub on the outskirts of town.
Kat turned up, and I bought her a drink. She seemed happy- happier than she’d been in years, and chatty. I can’t remember the last time she’d been chatty with me.
I’d expected an argument about the arrangements, but she didn’t seem very bothered. She certainly wasn’t interested in having the kids- she seemed more than happy to let me take on that role, and to see them at weekends. I was happy with that too- and also very happy that it didn’t look as if there was going to be a long drawn-out custody battle. The only thing that she did want was money. Typical.
She said that she’d been to see the Citizen’s Advice Bureau, and they’d told her that she was entitled to this that and the other, and that I’d have to pay her maintenance (which she was pleased about). They also gave her a leaflet for homeless families. I guess that she hadn’t been entirely honest with them either.
We agreed on things quickly and easily. She wanted a quick divorce and buying out of the house- she mentioned a “quick-divorce kit” that she’d seen on the internet. It was only a couple of days since she’d gone, and already we were planning the divorce! It was increasingly obvious that she had really wanted to get out of the marriage for some time. Why didn’t she just say so, or leave? That would have been so much better for all of us, and would have saved many months of heartache.
She’s still staying at my Dad’s, but fortunately she knows that it’s a very short-term arrangement. There’s a flat above a shop, just 8 houses up the road from home, for rent and she’s talking about going to see it. I’m not happy about that! I’ll have to see what I can do about it.
As the afternoon progressed, she became quite drunk. And the more drunk she got, the more flirtatious she became. “We should meet up again”, she slurred, “and have some ex sex”.
I don’t think so.