Sunday, February 20th, 2005.
The problem in this relationship isn’t me, it’s Katrina. It’s taken me a long time to work that out, and to realise that it doesn’t matter what I do, it won’t make any difference. I’m going to tell her to leave, and look after Natalia and Jack on my own. They’ll be much better off with me, than if I was to leave. But I need a plan.
The single biggest problem to overcome is my work. I work 20 miles from home, so there’s no chance of being able to nip back at lunchtime to pick up Jack from Nursery, or even drop the kids off in the morning (let alone pick them up again at night.
Things to be sorted
- Jack is now 4, and goes to nursery every morning ’til lunchtime.
- Natalia is 7, and goes to school between 8:45 and 3:00.
- I work full time, 20 miles away, and need to be there at 9:00.
- My working day doesn’t finish ’til 5:30.
- I need to get breakfasts, lunches, dinners, homework, baths, washing, cleaning planned properly.
- I’d also like to spend quality time with my kids too.
It occurred to me that I was already doing much of this on my own already. I only needed to plan for a few things after all.
- Kat’s parents already picked up Jack from nursery, and Natalia from School. That could continue.
- I’d need to get them home from Kat’s parents.
- I’ll move Natalia to school meals, then we can just have sandwiches in the evening.
- Jack would continue to have a cooked lunch at his Nan’s
- Kat’s the one keeping the house untidy. With her gone, it will actually free up my evenings, so I’ve be able to spend more time with the children, and fit in baths etc too.
- I know a childminder, I’ll ask her to take drop Natalia and Jack off at school in the morning from September (when Jack’s at school full time).
- Fortunately, the school has an after-school club. I think we’ll have to make use of that.
I’ve spent far too long putting up with shit, but another few weeks whilst I ensure that everything’s feasible won’t make any difference
I love it when a plan comes together!